This one is for all those dreading Valentine’s Day.
It’s never been my favorite.
To me, it’s intimidating. Whether you’re single, dating, in a relationship (or whatever the kids might be calling it these days) or married, it seems like a tricky holiday to manage.
Do we celebrate, or not. Buy gifts? Should we go out to dinner? Take a trip? Do I make some sort of food in the shape of hearts — let's be honest that would be a fail, but it sounds lovely.
In less than one week, cupid’s little wings will power on high and his arrow will shoot toward every vulnerable heart in range.
Some of you reading this were hit by the love arrow long ago and Valentine’s Day is no more than a day on the calendar, nothing any grander than a full moon or daylight savings time. To others it is another opportunity to show and express the love you have for another person.
I like cause for a little celebration, so why not, tricky and as confusing as it is, I’m celebrating. And more so than that, I’m always a fan of chocolate. Send me chocolates.
I'll celebrate both with the loved ones in my home as well as my girlfriends. If you don't already know, on Saturday from noon to 3 p.m. is a GALentine's Day event at 2nd & Main in Corbin. It looks like a fun time with coffee, chocolates and crafts. Coffee and chocolates — I'm going.
If the cute little chubby winged angel doesn’t actually strike you with the arrow of romantic love this holiday, you’ll still have the opportunity to read about someone else’s on your social media, or maybe get a glimpse of some happy couple while you’re dining out or catching a movie this Valentine’s Day.
While this could make you puke if you go about it the wrong way, I think you could make the best of it. Both with the perspective you take and the opportunity you seek.
Freelance Writer Courtney Walsh reminds us that we came from perfect love and that our love on earth is expected to be met with bumps, bruises, challenges and chaos. And tells us that it’s all a part of a journey, our learning.
Yes! Finally, someone telling me I don’t have to be perfect.
I have a wheelbarrow — no I need something bigger here — I have a truckload full of failed relationships and this used to bother me. I’ve accepted it now as experience. But, I’m stubborn so it took me a long time to figure out, well, a lot of stuff. And the truth is, I’m still learning and now I’m OK with that.
And bless my favorite guy’s heart, sometimes it’s not pretty for him. He thinks things in our relationship should be easy, really easy. I tell him often this isn’t going to be easy, it’s going to take work. Have you met me?
Thank God he has a sense of humor. And might I add a good one, he’s funny.
These bumps and bruises come in all of our loving relationships. Think about your family. I’m certain you’ve had at least one disagreement with a family member you’ve had to sort out. We simply aren’t meant to be perfect. Relationships are hard because people are messy and complex.
If love is not what you might have thought, or not like the fairytales or Disney movies promised, here is a reminder from Walsh.
You've got it all wrong.
You didn't come here to master unconditional love. This is where you came from and where you'll return.
You came here to learn personal love.
Infused with divinity.
Lived through the grace of stumbling.
Demonstrated through the beauty of... messing up.
You didn't come here to be perfect, you already are.
You came here to be gorgeously human. Flawed and fabulous.
And rising again into remembering.
But unconditional love? Stop telling that story.
Love in truth doesn't need any adjectives.
It doesn't require modifiers.
It doesn't require the condition of perfection.
It only asks you to show up.
And do your best.
That you stay present and feel fully.
That you shine and fly and laugh and cry and hurt and heal and fall and get back up and play and work and live and die as YOU.
So whatever your love story, and however you celebrate, remember love doesn’t ask for your perfection, but for you to show up and do your best over and over again if necessary.